Controversial Topics

This is something I've been going back and forth with.

On one hand, I have some controversial topics I'd like to blog about -- likely the posts would result in a little bit of heated discussion and such.

On the other hand, it feels somewhat irresponsible to even broach them, as it plants ideas in some peoples heads. It's as if the very presentation of the topics would cause some people to practice them.

I'm really not sure where to go on this. I tend to be a no B.S. kind of guy, but at the same time, I don't really want the attention. I'd rather people payed attention to me for other things.

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Magic Moments in Bondage

I've been struggling to come up with topics for blog posts, but this one wrote itself, in a way.

Have you ever had what I've mentally dubbed as "Magic Moments" in bondage?

 They seem to come in a few flavors, at least for myself.

That moment when you're a little uncomfortable, but you don't want to say anything to the top. You just sit, and wait for him to magically come to your rescue. After what seems like forever, the top checks on you. Not only do you NOT get rescue, but the top increases your predicament. There's something about this that often just makes me collapse into a sub mindset. It's a slippery slope.

The moment after you've cum, you're spent, and in a lot of ways you just want out. The top leaves everything (electro, clamps, milking machine, etc) in place. After enough time you eventually come to terms with your predicament -- settle into your bonds, and let out that big *sigh*.

That moment where you have been edged for what seems like days. You would literally scream in frustration if you could. Sitting, waiting for the next near-orgasm. Dreading it, and anticipating it.

The moment when you realize the top is going to give you everything you've asked for. All of the things you said in a chat window, on the phone, or in person -- in the heat of being horny or stroking yourself. You're about to experience all of the things that you fantasize about, but would never ask for. You would avoid it if you could, when the time is upon you - but the bondage is complete.

I would be interested to hear what other people consider to be 'magic' moments as well, this is just a few ideas.

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First Meeting Magic

I'll keep this short because it's just a smattering of thoughts I have...

In my opinion, there is a certain kind of magic between two people when they play the first time. This is especially true if they share a lot of common interests and/or connect well. These first-off meetings make real impressions on people and set the entire tone for a visit or even a relationship.

Thats why it is important to make as much use of it as possible -- In my case I had someone who had planned out several scenes in advance to my visit, and a VERY interesting airport pick up and first night It put my head in the right place and it was definitely and experience i will remember.

If it's someone you are meeting for the first time and you think that you are going to connect well, make sure you have shared a lot of thoughts/fantasies with each other. A good friend of mine likes to do this long in advance so you have time to forget what you asked for (It does make for an interesting time later).

I think some of the contributors to this factor are:

• Apprehension about the Person (Yes, this can and does make some people sexually charged)
• Fear of the Unknown
• Memory (Maybe you dont remember all you've discussed)
• Anticipation (Of what the person may be capable of, or how hard/strict)

This is not a comprehensive list, just random bits.

I'm not sure what else to add here, just thinking out loud this morning :)

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New Gear Purchases

Well after having not bought any new gear recently, I bought a catsuit during the sale that blackstyle had. The people that have met me know that it was desperately needed, as y old suit was affectionately nicknamed "Patches", and was more repairs than original suit.

I ordered a shoulder zip, with a thru crotch zip with locking zippers, nipple zip access, in plain black. Hopefully it will be here in a few weeks, I really look forward to it.

My other recent purchase, you Sportbike pervs will appreciate -- I ordered and recieved some Knox Handroid gloves :) Here is what they look like:

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